You walk into a room, and without anyone saying a word, you know who the "Boss" is. Their facial expression isn't angry, mean, sad, or happy. It is simply at peace with a hint of "Fuck around and find out" in it. The energy they give off is indistinguishable. You've just started working for this company, and you already know you want to get close to that person to learn their secrets. How do they do what they do? How are they always so calm, cool, and collected even when everyone is running around like a chicken with their heads cut off?
The good news is that we can learn and train to become this person without going to a remote monk monastery and taking a vow of silence or giving up our worldly desires or possessions. We can do it while we still live out our everyday life. Gradually transforming ourselves into that type of person.
One day you get a minute with your boss. You've been working hard to try and gain their trust in order to get close to them. Finally, you muster up the courage to ask them what their secret to being so cool, calm, and collected all the time. All you see is a small smile appear on their face. One of amusement, joy, and a secret world behind it. Finally, after what seems like forever, they tell you. "You must choose to suffer." Confused, yet confident that is the truth you walk out of their office on a new trajectory in life.
