On Episode 24 Lauren and Trey dissect a recent question from the audience that asked, “What if we don’t share the same goals?” Buckle-up, because they’re gonna take you on a wild ride!
At minute 8:57 Lauren shares how MANY of her clients are going through similar struggles right now as one partner deconstructs their evangelical faith, and another seeks to retain their beliefs. What IS the most loving thing to do?
They discuss one of their favorite terms, “interdependence” at minute 10:45 and how far it extends. They ask so many questions including: What happens when our goals involve a community that doesn’t include our partner? What happens when that community casts judgment on our partner? What happens when our personal goals threaten the well-being of our partner?
Does interdependence mean alignment with your partner’s autonomy or their goals? Are you trying to push your partner to a breaking point so that you can vilify their actions? Are you trying to shape your partner's values? At minute 28:17 Lauren shares just how detrimental it can be to try to control another person and then at minute 29:21 she suggests how letting someone go, while heartbreaking, may be the most loving option at times.
Trey closes us out with a zinger, sharing that before we can make any decisions about partnership, "we have to trust ourselves first."
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