Moving from anxiously attached tendencies to more secure tendencies is not an easy path. It takes awareness, lots of self compassion, and devotion. My still evolving journey to find security within myself has changed me in ways I am unable to fully put into words.
Which is why I invited Diana on my podcast today.
Diana Eskander, Expert Love Coach and Founder of The School of Love™, has helped thousands of women around the world meet their matches and access deeper layers of love in their existing relationships. She’s been named Top 2 Love Coach by Yahoo, selected as a TEDx speaker and featured on Global TV, making her the reference for women who crave a different approach to love - one that gets them out of their heads, and into their hearts.
In our conversation Diana shares her personal transition from anxious attachment tendencies to a secure relationship with herself, her partner, and her business as a prominent love coach. We tease out what is secure for each of us and explore how having a secure attachment affects our perspective of the world and universe.
In her journey to find "home, adventure and unconditional love" from a partner she faced the difficult questions of how can I create the feeling of home within me, how am I not showing up for myself, how am I not supporting myself, how am I creating my own attention for me, and how can I give myself unconditional love?
There were so many gems in this conversation including:
🌸How to more deeply trust the universe is just asking me to make a clear declaration of what I am ready for right now.
🌸Learning to sit with detachment so that we aren't blocking ourselves from out desires
🌸Projecting your anxious tendencies to other places besides your romantic relationships (business, money, children)
🌸How to recognize what your own anxiety feels like in the body
🌸Why self reflection is where we have the most power to create change
🌸Shifting from performing to receive love/ be loved to being open to receive the love you desire
🌸The importance of spaciousness
She shares openly about how she parents her 2 children to foster secure attachment within them and the invitation to go deeper within herself to heal her own inner child wounding. A mind blowing moment for me was recognizing as a society we reward the quiet, contained child. We assume they don't have needs, or needs are met because they are quiet. But in reality they could be detached, in freeze, and/ or realizing they have learned they must take care of my their own needs.
Last but not least, Diana tests my own tendencies through a fun "game" where you guys get to hear my deeper shadows about love and trust (yikes!) with an opportunity for you to do the same (this is a questionnaire you don't want to miss!)
This is obviously a packed episode you don't want to miss!
Books mentioned in today's podcast:
Radical Forgiveness book
How to work with Diana:
https://www.instagram.com/dianaeskander_/
https://www.facebook.com/groups/fearlesslovewithdiana
https://dianaeskander.com/
How to work with Lesha:
https://www.instagram.com/lesha__nelson/
https://leshanelson.com
