“I thought that if I gave him what he needed, he’d give me what I needed” Whew! Of course we had to save Bernie for last in our four part Waiting to Exhale episodes. Bernie found out the hard way what happens when you give your all and lose yourself in other people.
Join us, Jasmine and Charmaine, two Black licensed therapists as we discuss Angela Bassett's character, Bernie, from Waiting to Exhale. We are getting into what happens when you find yourself giving up all of you and then being left with what feels like nothing in return. We are also discussing codependency, falling apart, letting go, and the struggle to find yourself in the starting over process. Then just like always, we have some questions that need answers for this character in the movie.
Time stamps: 00:00 intro
05:20- Bernie and self-sacrifice
07:35 why some people can’t handle success (when relationships become transactional)
13:15 How did Bernie get into this situation (lost identity, unmet expectations)
20:26 Bernie’s stages of grief (sad, angry, delusional, dgaf, chopping hair off)
33:55 QTNA
Podcasts versions are at:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mentally-dope/id1673538196Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2DiRPvXY1ua6ftLg5FR98Q?si=aa3601b4b9ca490fAmazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/2a85c229-4bd8-4526-a65d-66b453998bce/mentally-dopeYouTube Versions found here: https://www.youtube.com/@Stay_mentallydope
Mental health x Black culture
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