This is the last installment of the Transitions series. Survivors of abuse have a hard time letting go of feelings just like everyone else. This is why in a previous episode I stated that the first 90 days are very crucial. Just because it was necessary to end the relationship and the survivor is now in a safe place does not mean their feelings for the one they left has ended. It takes time. And the longer a survivor has been with that person, the harder it is to heal. Love is not something you can turn off or on like a light switch. It is a matter of a growth and maturity which requires patience. Getting over that person involves the same thing. This time instead of having patience towards the other person you are in a relationship with, it is important that the survivor understands it is time to redirect that patience towards themselves. And to best support them, supporters – survivors need a lot of patience from you.
For those of you who are survivors, Granny wants to say – YOU GOT THIS! You are embarking on a new journey now so be proud of yourself. Yes it feels like hell because you still love them, but that’s ok. That just confirms you’re still human. What is not ok, is you still being in a space where they or anyone else can harm you in any shape or form.
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Please make use of these resources:
If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National
Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE
National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child
National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE
National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255
National Sexual Violence Resource Center: https://www.nsvrc.org/
Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/
***************************************************************************************************************************************************HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny
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