Helping someone work through marriage issues is a huge responsibility. The number one rule in medicine “Do No Harm” is definitely apropos here. You certainly do not want to make a difficult situation even more complex. The questions you ask, the perspectives you share, the words you use; these all matter – are you helping or are you making things even worse?
Devora Krasnianski, founder of Adai Ad shares some Dos and Don’ts about helping someone with their shalom bayis.
https://adaiad.org/krasnianski-helping-someone-with-shalom-bayis/
for a guide and language for how to help
