Pamela Klein, LCSW answers questions about intimacy (with Devora Krasnianski of Adai Ad)
www.adaiad.org/intimacy-series
pamelakleinlcsw@gmail.com 718-395-9185
- 0:00 Introduction
- 1:32 What is desire & arousal?
- 3:57 Brakes & Accelerators.
- 7:23 I push myself and then I feel bad about that. (consent vs negating oneself)
- 9:55 Saying ‘not now’ vs pushing myself through it.
- 11:53 We have different levels of desire.
- 14:18 I have some ‘conditions’ that I want for intimacy. 1
- 5:55 My spouse doesn’t seem to hear what I really want.
- 17:36 It just feels mechanical. How do I bring that up?
- 19:50 Anxiety about pregnancy is getting in the way.
- 22:05 Other relationship issues impacting intimacy.
- 24:16 We’re both uncomfortable talking about intimacy.
- 26:06 It’s hard to bring up issues now after so many years.
- 28:43 What happens in therapy?
- 31:29 Getting clarification about what was learned in chosson/kallah classes.
- 35:09 Getting comfortable trying something new.
- 36:12 Intimacy is getting boring. How to get back on track?
- 38:44 How do I tell my spouse that I just want to cuddle?
- 40:00 When we schedule and then it doesn’t work out, we get disappointed.
- 41:48 Building emotional intimacy.
- 44:40 I feel hurt by something my spouse said about me.
- 46:37 I have a need and my spouse is just not into it.
- 48:30 Working through what I learned in kallah class (initiating).
- 50:05 How do I hide my disappointment?
- 51:29 Physical and emotional attraction.
- 53:00 Arousal & climax.
- 54:53 Intimacy during pregnancy and after birth.
- 56:48 How to build emotional connection.
- 58:04 How much time before and after intimacy is normal?
- 1:00:24 Wrap up and contact info
