What makes coaching truly different from every other development modality?
In this deep, spacious conversation, Zoran and Michael Stratford, MCC unpack a radical, yet simple truth:
- Most of the world says, “Be like me.”
- Coaching, at its purest, says, “Be like you.”
Drawing on his background in mathematics, theater, and three decades of coaching, Michael explains why uniqueness is not a nice idea, but a mathematical and existential fact — and why the coach’s role is to help clients discover the way of living, leading, and succeeding that fits them on a cellular level.
Together they explore:
- Why coaching is the one profession that doesn’t ask clients to copy someone else’s success model
- How epigenetics, tribal survival, and cultural conditioning make uniqueness feel dangerous
- The crucial difference between behavior (learned survival strategy) and essence (who you really are)
- Michael’s powerful exercise: “Who are you without…?” — stripping away roles, achievements, titles, and identities
- The moment of realizing: “I am… me” — and how that changes everything
- The “shoe test”: how to know when a role, job, or opportunity truly fits you
- Why stepping into your uniqueness requires courage, vulnerability, and transition, not reckless cut-off
- The journey from fitting into the world → to shaping the world around who you are
They also explore the very practical side of uniqueness: money, work, profession, saying no to misaligned contracts, and creating new paths and even new professions when what you are doesn’t yet exist in the market.
The conversation then opens into a bigger reflection on life:
- Above the line / below the line – “My life works exactly the way I want it to”
- Why goals (MCC, championships, money, Olympic gold) are means to an inner evolution, not the point
The key question:
“Given that we’re all going to die, how do I want to experience my life on a daily basis, between now and then?”
Finally, Michael offers a clear call to action:
If you truly want to honor your uniqueness, use a coach. Not because you “need” one to survive — but because a coach is a powerful ally in helping you live more fully as yourself, with less struggle and more awareness. This is a rich, human, and deeply spiritual episode that will stay with listeners long after it ends.
Key Talking Points
- Coaching as the only profession that says: “Be like you,” not “Be like me.”
- Mathematical and energetic uniqueness – why no two humans are the same
- Cultural and epigenetic conditioning: the fear of being different and fear of banishment
- The trap: confusing behavior (“that’s just how I am”) with essence (“who I really am”)
- The identity question: “Who are you without work, without titles, without achievements?”
- The “Who am I without…?” exercise (roles, accomplishments, beliefs, relationships, culture…)
- Reaching the simple but profound answer: “I am me.”
- Developing a “cellular-level fit” for your life choices: the shoe test metaphor
- Vulnerability and courage: the threshold of stepping into your unique expression
- Congruence, integrity, and authenticity as outcomes of living your uniqueness
- Practical realities: money, job loss, transitions, and creating new professions that didn’t exist before
- Above/below the line:
Below the line: “I’m trying to make my life work the way I want.”
At the line: “My life works the way I want.”
Above the line: “Now that my life works, what do I want my life to be about?”Legacy: being remembered not for titles and money, but for being a good human - Redefining goals: from chasing outcomes → to focusing on who we become in the process
- Why coaches also need coaches — congruence, credibility, and personal evolution
- Coaching as a tool: not a necessity, but a powerful ally in evolving consciousness and life experience
- Reassurance for listeners: your uniqueness will not leave you alone — it will attract the right people
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