When you hear the term ‘self-love’, you think bubble baths, manicures, ice cream. 🛀💅🍨We’ve discovered after some years of experimenting that, no, it is not, in fact, about bubble baths, manicures and ice cream - it’s about being a friend to yourself 🥰
This is actually the practice of mettā or loving-kindness, which is an important foundation of the practice. We feel it’s not talked about enough so we are! Tune in to hear Khema (@khema.1) and Nalanda (@nalanda.jakjan) discuss loneliness, independence, self-empathy and mettā 💕
Timestamps
(00:48) - Catch-up
(03:33) - Motivation for the episode
(06:11) - Gentleness in the practice
(07:42) - Loneliness
(08:35) - Advice from Ajahns
(11:45) - Self-love, self-empathy
(13:47) - Fill your own cup first
(14:48) - Like a friend would
(15:27) - Notice the way yoau talk to yourself
(19:25) - Like serving a client
(22:12) - Glitches in the mind
(23:16) - You can’t do this practice without metta
(26:12) - Being intense but also having metta??
(27:45) - The criticiser and the critised
(29:37) - Independence is a quality of the stream-enterer
(30:52) - You seek out what you lack
(31:31) - Being independent vs needing support
(35:33) - Attā hi attano nātho
(36:41) - What if you have a negative personality?
References:
Resources:
- Virtual Metta Retreat (series) by Ajahn Sona
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This episode was recorded in 2023.
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