Description

What if the pain you’ve been carrying after divorce isn’t just “in your head”… but living in your body? In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica sits down with Loni Markman, a neuro-somatic life coach, to explore how somatic healing helps release divorce trauma and rebuild core confidence.

Together, they unpack the difference between “Big T” and “little t” trauma, how hidden experiences shape our behaviors long after divorce, and why creating safety in your own body is the foundation for moving forward.

From breathwork and EFT tapping to progressive muscle relaxation and daily “miracle minutes,” you’ll walk away with practical tools you can use immediately to calm anxiety, regulate your nervous system, and start reclaiming your confidence.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

• The difference between “Big T” trauma and the smaller, stackable experiences that add up over time

• How trauma shows up in relationships long after the divorce is final

• Why creating safety in your body is the first step toward healing

• Tools like breathwork, EFT tapping, and progressive muscle relaxation to calm your system

• The importance of noticing “glimmers” (moments of joy) as much as “triggers”

• How self-abandonment chips away at confidence—and how to repair it

⏱️ Episode Timestamps

• 00:00 Introduction

• 02:17 Big T vs. Little T Trauma

• 04:56 Personal Experiences and EMDR

• 08:25 Self-Listening and Safety

• 17:32 Small Steps to Reprogramming

• 23:14 Overcoming Despair & Finding Wins

• 31:44 Tools for Emotional Regulation

• 32:13 Breathing Techniques for Calmness

• 36:16 EFT Tapping & Muscle Relaxation

• 40:47 Building a Supportive Community