Episode 223 - Father Figures - The Impact of Grandpas, Uncles, and Stepdads
Indirect adult male influences - like coaches, grandpas, uncles, and cousins—play a crucial role in shaping kids by modeling respectful, healthy behaviors, emotional openness, and integrity beyond what they might experience at home. As men, we can actively help our extended families and their children by making ourselves available, participating in their lives, and demonstrating what balanced masculinity looks like - showing fairness, taking responsibility, and admitting mistakes honestly.
Ways Men Can Positively Influence Kids
- Show up for kids at family events, games, or special occasions to foster a sense of belonging and support.
- Model respectful behavior and emotional openness, proving that expressing feelings is healthy and normal.
- Teach confidence by demonstrating self-belief and sharing motivational strategies, helping kids feel valued in their unique interests.
- Offer gentle discipline and guidance, focusing on fairness and accountability rather than strictness or control.
- Be proactive in mentoring nieces, nephews, or younger cousins - with advice, shared hobbies, or simple life skills.
Modeling Healthy Male Examples Outside Immediate Family
- Admit your mistakes and show humility, which helps kids see that it’s okay to be imperfect and encourages emotional resilience.
- Share caregiving tasks, demonstrate respect for all family members, and challenge outdated stereotypes, so kids observe inclusive and supportive masculinity.
- Encourage open communication, listen to kids’ concerns, and validate their opinions, building trust and confidence.
- Support diverse interests for family members - whether in music, sports, academics, or art -to expand their understanding of what it means to be a caring, capable man.
By modeling these behaviors, men can help kids - both within and outside their immediate families - grow into confident, emotionally resilient adults, equipped to build healthy relationships and contribute positively to their communities.
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