What is attachment trauma and how does it correlate with boundaries?
Attachment trauma is “a consistent disruption of physical and emotional safety" in the family system.
Our nervous system's are constantly learning how to be in connection with people. And the biggest question we are often asking internally and subconsciously is -"is it safe to be in connection or not?" ARE YOU A SAFE PERSON?
When an infant experiences consistent care where his/her needs are met, he/she internalizes three things:
If we don't experience these things are children, it builds the relationship template that we carry through our adult lives into our adult relationships.
When a child understands that they are safe, heard and valuable he or she can then develop other healthy relationships. Without this as a secure foundation, as adults we try to get the unmet needs of our inner child met which is what create so much chaos in our adult lives.
Listen to discover:
"The initial relationship between self and others serves as a blueprint for all future relationships.”-Krista Resnick
"Our nervous system is constantly learning how to be in connection with people. And the biggest thing around that is, is the question...is it safe to be in connection or not? There’s all these overt ways that it can feel not safe, but also really covert ways that it can start feeling unsafe and shutting us down or revving us up." -Krista Resnick
"The unmet needs of our inner child are what create chaos in our adult life." -Krista Resnick
LINKS & RESOURCES
Krista Resnick-Instagram
Empowered Boundaries Facebook Community
Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin
