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Quotes/Takeaways:
"The Zen Dad Method is all about creating a life that you want as a father."
"Dads have all the stress and the world on their shoulders constantly."
"Everything was based towards moms. I think there's a real need for working with dads and helping them."
"If you want them to be good, kind, well-rounded, hardworking, fun, nice individuals, then you should probably be that fun, nice, hardworking, kind individual."
"If you're expecting that from someone, do you also do it with your current relationships that you have? Do you match the energy? Do you match the excitement, the emotion, the love, all the things in between there?"
"How do we co-parent? It shouldn't be a competition. That statement of like, who's the better parent? It's like, well, okay, if I'm doing this, how do we work together to create it so that there's a balance between the parents?"
Takeaways
The Zen Dad Method helps fathers create a life based on intentional parenting and guides them in figuring out their priorities.
Dads often face unique challenges and stress, and there is a need for support and coaching specifically tailored to them.
Separation and divorce can have a significant impact on parenting and mental health, and it is important to seek help and find healthy coping mechanisms.
Modeling the behavior and values we want to instill in our children is crucial, as they learn more from our actions than our words.
Focusing on the process and progress rather than just the end product is essential for building a healthy parent-child relationship. Parents should model the behavior they want to see in their children.
Being present and intentional in parenting is crucial.
Co-parenting requires collaboration and support rather than competition.
Having fun and enjoying life with your children is important.
Breathwork can be a helpful tool for grounding and managing emotions.
Summary
Jay Kalryzian, founder of the Zen Dad Method, joins the Young Dad Podcast to discuss intentional parenting and creating a life as a father. The Zen Dad Method helps guide fathers in figuring out their priorities and implementing them to live the life they want. Jay shares his personal journey as a stay-at-home dad and how it led him to create the Zen Dad Method. He emphasizes the need for support and coaching for dads, who often face unique challenges and stress. The conversation also touches on the impact of separation and divorce on parenting and mental health. The conversation focused on the importance of modeling behavior for children and the role of parents in shaping their children's values and attitudes. It emphasized the need for parents to be kind, hardworking, and grateful in order to instill these qualities in their children. Overall, the conversation provided insights and advice for fathers on how to be effective and intentional parents.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to the Zen Dad Method
02:11 Jay's Journey as a Father
04:56 Challenges and Transformation after Separation
08:00 The Importance of Self-Reflection and Modeling Behavior
22:01 Changing the Narrative: Moms as Superior Parents
45:42 Co-Parenting and Resentment
47:02 Being Transactional in Co-Parenting
48:21 Managing Emotions during Separation
49:15 Seeking Objective Guidance
50:40 Embracing Change as a Father
51:28 Understanding and Processing Anger
52:23 The Transformative Nature of Fatherhood
53:00 Importance of Seeking Support
54:11 Core Value: Fun
56:02 Grounding Technique: Breathwork
58:11 Being Present and Starting from Where You Are
Find more of Jay and the Zen Dad Method:
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https://www.linkedin.com/in/jay-zen-kalryzian-036703245/
https://www.tiktok.com/@zendadmethod?lang=en