It's OKAY if people don't understand you! Human beings are overloaded and overwhelmed.... And those overwhelming feelings are causing us to look outside of ourselves for answers. We are wanting to understand why "life is so difficult.” Why it appears that someone else has it “easier” than we do? And furthermore, we are desperately hoping that someone who feels safe to talk to will see us and give us a pat on the back or even just listen to our problems with genuine sincerity.... And that's if they EVEN have the capacity to (at that specific moment in time). Because we're all high functioning neurotic over achievers trying to build our dream lives on a wing and a damn prayer!
But what if life didn’t have to be so “difficult?” What if we humans had it easier than we suspect? What if you could start a brand-new life RIGHT NOW?!
Well… Indeed, you can! I've learned that the best way to start to build your dream life and alleviate suffering is to eliminate your need for validation. Don’t get me wrong… we all love to be celebrated but living for the applause of the external world is a recipe for failure and self-loathing. Like Beyoncé says, “Monday I’m overrated… Tuesday on my d*ck.” Meaning one day people will hate you and the next day they’ll love you…. Humans are fickle that way. It’s nothing wrong with it, per say, but you can’t base your life or your livelihood on what people think of you because clearly their opinions change like the wind.
I know I’ve fallen victim to the disease to please and each time I feel stressed out I know it’s because I have some fear that I won’t impress someone…. That someone won’t understand me… or get my vision. We create extra stress in our lives not because we have a dream that calls to us but mostly because we are still living and acting as the abandoned and neglected children, we were 10... 15... 20... 30.... even 40 years ago. AND THAT'S OKAY! There's no judgement here! Look I get it! But if you wanna build a new life you gotta do a new thing. That new thing starts with figuring out who you REALLY ARE and WHAT YOU REALLY WANT.
If you need "understanding" you won't act, you won't move, you won't release. If you need "them" to get your life choices it will be difficult to realize your dreams... If you need to always know the how or the why in order to follow your heart, then you might as well put yourself in chains. Because that's what bondage is... it's cutting yourself off from freedom. Freedom is not something that can be obtained but rather a state of being YOU must embody. If everything you do, every move you make, every relationship you exist within is predicated upon "understanding" you are depriving yourself of the boundless and miraculous nature of an adventurous life.
Drop your need for understanding and you'll drop every other pattern and or habit that no longer serves you... i.e., PEOPLE PLEASING!
