Are you a person who feels more comfortable when you are in control? In this episode I discuss why this might be, what the consequences are, and how you can start to change. I would love to hear your story. Connect with me on Instagram @melaniewelchmd or TikTok @drmeliswell. I look forward to seeing you back next week.
Resources:
The Relationship Between Uncertainty and Affect https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2019.02504/full
Is the Pain Worth the Gain? The Advantages and Liabilities of Agreeing With Socially Distinct Newcomers https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0146167208328062
https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/why_losing_control_make_you_happier
Desirability of Control Scale https://www.scu.edu › psychology › documents
Mindsets That Promote Resilience: When Students Believe That Personal Characteristics Can Be Developedhttps://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/00461520.2012.722805
Quantity versus uncertainty: When winning one prize is better than winning two. https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2007-15123-015
Today's takeaways:
1. Learn to appreciate uncertainty
2.Identify situations that trigger your desire for control
3.Reflect on whether you truly have control, and if taking action is the right use of your energy.
4.Reflect on your behavior in situations where you want to take control. Is it better to ask for more perspectives?
5.Gather support
6.Practice surrendering.
7.Focus on what you can control, often it is the process and not the outcome.
