When you go through tough times or you make a big change in life, you will see exactly who is in your corner and who isn’t. You will begin to see the actions over the words. Many people will tell you that they have your back and that they are here for you, but in real life outside of their words you will see and feel who really is there to support you.
It was in my hardest times that I had to let go of the expectations and allow God to heal my hurt and my heart. I had to go through the process of losing what I thought to be true. We don’t just experience the pain of loss during death but we also go through loss in relationships, jobs, health, financial stability, we experience loss in personal roles that we were in that change suddenly. When we change and grow expect that there will be a loss and know that for each loss your feelings and responses may be different. We often times try to push our feelings aside and Tell everyone that we are fine. When in real life we are not fine and we are experiencing some tough stuff that hurts. Ignoring the pain won’t make it go away.
It’s important to find a healthy balance to allow yourself to go through what you are going through while also moving forward and taking the necessary steps to get to where you need to be. Free yourself from the unrealistic expectation that you hold in others and let it go. Take the time to express that hurt and anger that you feel in a healthy way and look for the positive things and people around you to help you through. Don’t push away the help that you have focusing on the help that you don’t have. Be grateful for who God has allowed in your life and the things that you have experienced and take the lessons that you have learned to keep rebuilding yourself and your life. Forgive yourself for staying in situations to long and expecting others to change. Be the change that you want to see in yourself and stop making excuses. If you have to cry, cry. If you have to scream, scream. If you need to release the pain and angry that you have write it down and rip it up and give it to God.
There is a blessing with your name on it. The longer you stay stuck in the negative mind set and allow yourself to focus on things that you can’t control and things that have no purpose for you, the longer you will stay stuck where you are. On this freedom Friday let’s practice acceptance. Accept that you have gone through some rough stuff and you have had some hard lessons along the way. Accept that you haven’t always done things right and at times you have to face defeat. Accept that you don’t have the support that you thought you had and allow God to restore and remove anything unpleasing in your life. Accept that you will not please everyone and start to please yourself. Don’t worry about what you don’t have and start giving thanks for what you do have. You have the power to create change now let’s go out there and make it happen.
