Have you ever struggled to say “no” to a partner or a friend for fear of making them feel rejected? Conversely, have you ever felt rejected when someone said “no” to you? In either scenario, you are not alone! Saying “no” and accepting “no” are both difficult. However, our ability to do both of these things is essential for us to maintain healthy relationships, sexual or otherwise.
In this episode, April and Danielle explore ways to advocate for one’s self and learn to accept when others advocate for themselves. In other words, how to give and receive the word, “no.” They even do a little role playing! As you listen to this week’s quickie, consider how April and Danielle emphasize the importance of creating a balance between establishing and implementing boundaries while honoring the needs of others.
April and Danielle also discuss the way a history of trauma - of someone experiencing a violation of their “no” - can lead to difficulties saying “no” in the present. If you think you may feel triggered by this conversation, please take care of yourself, listen to your body, and turn off the episode if needed.
If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.
For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html
