Leaders aren’t paid to keep everyone happy—they’re trusted to do what’s right for the mission, the people, and the long game. In this Leadership LIVE, JJ Hardy and Chris Pienkowski break down how to stand firm on values, communicate tough calls, avoid the consensus trap, and build a support system so you don’t burn out when decisions get lonely.
Timestamps are approximate to help you jump to key moments.
⏱️ Timestamps
00:00 – Welcome + why this topic matters (and JJ’s book reminder)
01:15 – Fall check-in: routines, seasons, and leadership mindset resets
03:05 – What “lonely leadership” really looks like (and why it’s not failure)
05:12 – Your job isn’t to please everyone: serving the greater good
07:40 – Explaining decisions when you can’t share everything (trust as the bridge)
10:28 – Likeable vs. trustworthy: the balance leaders must strike
12:55 – New leaders: getting “left-shoulder” support for hard conversations
16:02 – Do it in person: why email announcements erode trust and credibility
18:36 – The consensus trap: input ≠ voting; how to use the team as advisors
21:58 – Delivery matters: firm + tactful without being a jerk
24:30 – No surprises: cadence, micro-updates, and expectation management
28:05 – Don’t avoid the talk: the real cost of indecision and delay
30:42 – Sounding boards, mentors, and not catastrophizing alone
33:50 – Read-in your top team: preparing leaders to cascade decisions
36:44 – Short-term pain, long-term respect: “rip the band-aid” moments
39:12 – Final take (Chris): make the call; you’ll never get 100% buy-in
41:00 – Final take (JJ): nervous = you care; support system + “cost of not deciding”
43:05 – Next LIVE teaser: Leading Through Conflict Without Selling Out (Nov 8 @ 0700)
🔑 Key Takeaways
Anchor to principles, not praise.
Solicit ground-truth input, then decide.
Deliver with clarity and respect; don’t outsource the hard talk.
Build your trusted circle so you’re not carrying it alone.
Indecision has a price—usually paid in trust and culture.
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