Now that we've explored our central nervous systems and know how to calm ourselves down, the first question I always get is how to I teach this to my kids?
Well, my friends, as a reminder...
Kids do what we do, not what we say.
The best way to teach anything is by modeling it to them.
Show them how to regulate by watching you regulate.
You might already be co-dysregulating.
That's ok. Very normal.
Once we have awareness of that, we can (without judgement) compassionately change and learn how to co-regulate instead.
After we are regulated, we can share the peace with our children when they are ready.
Always remembering that all the emotions are okay.
Feelings are not a problem that need to be fixed.
Feel them through, get the message they are sending, and then come back to regulation.
Assure your nervous system that you are safe and then your brain and body will be back on-line in order to help your kiddos do the same.
Instead of letting the grumpiest kid rule the house.
You be the calm captain of the ship.
But self-regulating first.
We explore more in this episode.
And when you're ready for hands-on step by step support to implement, head to dropthewar.com/appointments to find a time to get together and I'd be honored to join you on your journey do dropping the wars and creating Peace in your Parenting!
