Sometimes when we grow up in a fairy tale culture, we think that we are not complete until we find and marry our "other half". Or maybe even after our "happily ever after" we still aren't feeling whole so we add babies to the mix in search of completing ourselves.
This enmeshment and codependence can cause a lot of problems for us.
What is the solution and how to we get to a healthy differentiated place?
Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is going to help us explore these questions on the podcast today.
She helps us understand how to develop our sense of self so that we don't completely lose ourselves in motherhood and as a wife.
The secret is agency. Choice. We chose the life we are living. And we need to intentionally remind ourselves frequently of our choosing in order to stay in ownership and not victim mentality. This will get out out of the trap of resentment and help us love ourselves, our families, and our lives.
As we work on our own relationship with self, we can nourish ourselves with enough love and acceptance, that we have enough and to spare to pour into others.
To learn more from Dr Finlayson-Fife, check out her website at https://www.finlayson-fife.com
And if you are ready to apply these principles into your relationships, sign up for a FREE RBC (Relationship Boost Call) with me at www.dropthewar.com/appointments and I'll see ya on zoom!
