The main reason I find that people think that they are a "bad mom" is that they are not able to comply with a long list of expectations or "rules" that they have for themselves which qualifies them as a good mom. I think that this is all a big thought error. You ARE a Good Mom! Inherently. You just ARE. AND you do and don't do things that are not on that list. And it's ok.
One of the first things I do with my clients is get awareness of this "list of rules" that we have for ourselves and our kids. Our unrealistically long list of expectations is what is causing all the havoc in our lives. It's not that we are a bad mom, it's that we don't understand that we are a good mom no matter what, even if, and especially when.
So break the rules. Who cares? Who made up this rule? Why should you comply with it? You're probably breaking it anyway but you're beating yourself up about it. Let's drop that second part and then we can work on "following" the rule if you decide it's actually something that is important to YOU. Not to your mom or your neighbor or sister or the author of that book you read. YOU! You are the mother here and you get to make the rules. Make the list short and doable and break all the rest! It is amazingly liberating!!
And as a bonus tangent concept in this episode I go on my rant about how you don't HAVE to do anything and if you are doing it, then you DO actually WANT to.
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