When I ask you if you are a good mom you might actually say Yes! Awesome!! That's the goal, right? But do you believe that about yourself 100% of the time? No matter what, even if, and especially when?
How about on a scale of 1-10? If "good mom" is a 10, where are you? Why?
If you're an 8, maybe you're having a potty training issue or your son keeps hitting his sister or maybe you yelled at them about that and that is making you think that you are 8 out of 10.
In this episode I will break down for you what we do in coaching that gives you awareness of your subconscious thoughts that are still trying to make it mean that you are a terrible mom, even when consciously you know that you are good.
Because if you are struggling with your relationship with your kiddo, it's not because they still aren't potty trained yet and you're fed up with cleaning up the messes. The real problem is buried layers deeper in what you are making it mean.
What are you making it mean? Is a question we use as coaches to help you figure out what the real problem is. So your daughter is 4 and not potty trained. So what? You think kids should be trained by 2. So what? Then there must be something wrong with. my kid. So what? So there must be something wrong with me. I haven't been able to figure this out yet. So? There's something wrong with me. There it is. I'm not a good mom. That's why I'm an 8.
So when we clean that up, then we can peel off the layers starting at the bottom there. Do you see how that works?
If you have no awareness that your brain is making it mean that you're a bad mom, then you can't change that and create the peaceful parent that you want to be. First step is awareness. Without judgement and dripping with self-compassion and grace.
Asking yourself what you're making it mean will get you that awareness.
And then you'll be ready to work with me to turn all your behavior issues (yours and theirs) into opportunities to solidify your new belief that you ARE Good. No matter what, even if and especially when.
And when you're ready for a coach to help you through, chat with me for free and then use coupon code "Christmas" to get 11% off and your kids will get the best Christmas gift this year: a Mom who knows who she IS! Consciously and subconsciously. Let's get started changing those neuropathways!
