In this week’s episode of Inside the Mind, Jen and Allie get real about expectations and how they silently run the show in your relationships, business, and daily life.
Ever felt disappointed, let down, or straight-up pissed off by someone’s actions (or lack of)? Here’s the truth—it’s not them, it’s your expectations.
From unspoken assumptions to the resentment that follows, Jen and Allie break down why most of our frustrations have nothing to do with others and everything to do with the expectations we never voiced.
This episode is a must-listen
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Episode Highlights:
(00:00) Tea, exquisite cups, and kicking things off with a reality check.
(01:24) Nobody breaks your heart. They just break your expectations.
(02:12) The moment you realise your disappointment is actually on you.
(05:01) A real-life example of expectations causing unnecessary frustration.
(10:19) Jen’s Facebook post debacle—why assuming credit would be given backfired.
(13:59) The hidden cost of unexpressed expectations—judgment, resentment, and conflict.
(17:10) What to do when your clearly stated expectations still aren’t met.
(18:30) Where did your expectations come from? Conditioning, beliefs and inherited narratives.
(19:05) Final reflections and why contemplation is your new superpower.
Action Items:
Examine your expectations. Are they fair? Have you actually communicated them?
Take full responsibility for your own emotions instead of blaming others.
Notice your triggers. They’re goldmines of self-awareness, showing you where the gift is.
Quotes:
“Nobody broke your heart—they just didn’t meet an expectation you never told them about.”
Takeaways:
Unexpressed expectations create resentment. If you don’t say it, you can’t blame others for not meeting it.
People are not mind readers. If you assume they “should just know,” prepare for disappointment.
Self-responsibility is your freedom. Blame keeps you stuck—ownership sets you free.
Triggers reveal where you get to grow. Instead of reacting, ask: What was my expectation here?
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