In this week’s episode of Inside The Mind, Jen & Allie throw the script in the bin and ask the question no one’s daring to ask: Whose version of emotional intelligence are we all attempting to live up to?
In a world obsessed with labels, benchmarks, and ticking boxes for worthiness, they unpack what happens when we stop striving and start actually feeling.
What if emotional intelligence isn’t about control or appearing “together”?
What if it’s not about being palatable, polished, or professionally “on”?
What if it’s simply about genuinely giving a f*ck — about yourself and others?
This episode is a refreshing take on what it means to be human, and why chasing predefined standards (even the “spiritually woke” ones) might be the very thing keeping you stuck in not-enoughness.
Tune in now!
Episode Highlights:
(01:05) Jen’s lightning bolt moment: Who actually decided what emotional intelligence is?
(04:15) Why the dictionary definition of EQ made both Jen & Allie cringe.
(07:12) The trendiness of emotional intelligence… is it just the new ‘kale’ of personal development?
(09:52) The difference between striving to become vs. choosing to just be.
(13:02) How “I’m not enough yet” keeps us locked in cycles of constant self-fixing.
(15:12) The facts bro: You don’t need to do more to be worthy — you already are.
Action Items:
Question the rules: Whose version of “emotionally intelligent” are you following?
Explore for joy, not for fixing. Learn, evolve, and grow because you want to — not because you think something’s wrong or missing.
Share your reflections: Got thoughts on this conversation? Reach out — Jen & Allie would love to hear from you.
Quotes:
“EQ - genuinely giving a fuck about yourself AND others.”
Takeaways:
Emotional intelligence isn’t one-size-fits-all. You get to define it for yourself.
Stop living by other people’s standards — even the “spiritual” ones.
Self-growth doesn’t require self-judgment. You can evolve and be enough as you are.
The real power move… BEing!
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