“I love when women realise they’re not asking for too much”
… this quote had us punching the air!
In this episode of Inside the Mind, Allie May and Jen Forster strip back societal expectations, dig into the concept of self-validation, and remind us that living a truly free and beautiful life is not only our birthright, it’s the whole damn point.
Women are often told to put others first: family, business, society—but what happens when we flip the script and make ourselves a priority?
Allie and Jen dive deep into the concept of "being your own reason why" and how it can radically transform not just your life, it will transform your business, relationships, and everything in between.
From personal stories of being labelled as “too much” to discovering the beauty in living unapologetically, this episode is a reminder that putting ourselves first isn’t selfish—it’s essential.
No apologies, no permission needed.
Tune in now!
Episode Highlights:
(01:17) - Allie and Jen kick things off with a challenge to societal norms, urging women to stop putting everyone else’s needs first.
(03:24) - Jen recalls her childhood love for reading and music, and how societal pressures pushed her to make her passion about others.
(04:29) - Allie shares her experience of being labeled the "bad girl" for being outspoken and how she reclaimed her power by embracing her truth.
(08:00) - Jen talks about how a business coach once made her feel that her personal desires weren't enough of a "why."
(14:12) - The duo introduces the concept of ecology, explaining that if something isn’t good for you first, it’s not good for anyone else.
(16:49) - Jen and Allie discuss how women are conditioned to derive value from how much they give to others.
Action Items:
Write down why you do what you do (or want to)—make sure your "why" is centred around you, not others.
Take time this week to put your needs first in at least one area of your life—whether it’s self-care, business, or relationships.
Identify one way in which you’ve been putting others first and create a loving boundary for your time, energy, or emotions.
Look in the mirror and acknowledge the magic that is you. Give yourself a moment of gratitude and empowerment—your uniqueness is your power.
Quotes:
“Be your own reason why. If it’s not good for you, then, in the long run, it won’t be fucking good for anyone else.”
Takeaways:
Prioritise Yourself First: Stop putting others’ needs above your own. When you take care of yourself first, everything else falls into place.
Own Your Why: Your personal desires and fulfilment are reason enough. You don’t need to justify your goals to anyone.
Create Your Own Path: Break free from societal expectations and live life unapologetically, on your own terms.
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