Ever feel like you’re losing control of everything? I know the feeling. Join me in this eye-opening episode of “Moments of Authenticity” as I dive deep into the struggles and triumphs of my healing journey after a major surgery. We’ll explore the hard truth about control and why it’s sometimes necessary to let go and accept what we can’t change.
The Hard Truth About Control. Discover why trying to control everything is a losing battle.
My Personal Healing Story. Hear about my recent hysterectomy and the six to eight-week recovery that left me feeling powerless.
Emotional Rollercoaster. How not being able to work out, clean up, or even lift heavy things made me feel frustrated and helpless.
Pain and Mindset. Learn why pushing through pain isn’t always the best approach and how my mindset shifted during recovery.
The Power of Language. Why the words you use about what you can and cannot do matter more than you think.
Giving Yourself Grace. The importance of self-compassion and patience when life doesn’t go as planned.
Timestamps
[00:05] Discussion on the theme of control, related to personal healing after a hysterectomy.
[01:00] Frustration with the inability to perform usual activities, like working out, after surgery.
[02:21] Adjusting to physical limitations and the impact on mental health.
[04:00] Mindset shift regarding control and acknowledging limitations.
[06:40] Validation of one’s efforts and the importance of recognizing progress.
[07:12] The importance of language and mindset in dealing with limitations.
[07:50] The challenge of maintaining agency despite physical limitations.
[09:50] Avoiding the all-or-nothing mindset and exploring what is within one’s control.
[10:15] Adjusting activities to fit current abilities and recognizing personal agency.
[11:00] The importance of not falling into cognitive distortions and maintaining a balanced perspective.
[11:30] Physical relaxation techniques to help cope with the feeling of losing control.
Notable Quotes
“I’m used to pushing through the pain. And that’s something to really take inventory of, because in my mind, I’m like, ‘You just gotta keep pushing, you gotta keep going, you gotta keep doing those things’. And I tell my clients all the time, you can’t ignore those things, or they will come back full force.”
“Not having control over when the pain is going to come or how the pain is going to come, not that I could control that anyway, but that’s just something I, in my mind, I felt like I needed to control.”
“My control, or my desire for control, is a matter of mindset.”
“The things that you tell yourself, you can’t do right now or can’t do any more, the idea that you can still do things and still reach goals, like you’re still getting results, they just don’t always look like the package that you want them to look in. So, make sure that you’re honoring that piece.”
“I take away my own agency, when I only mentioned what I cannot do.”
“I will challenge you or charge you to look at the language that you use around what you can and cannot do. And it’s actually can you or can you not do that? Or is it more like, you can’t do that right now, because those are two different things.”
“Are we doing more damage to ourselves telling ourselves we need to be somewhere that we’re not yet or that we’re not like that place is not accessible to us at all? And having to shift and pivot? Are we giving ourselves credit to be there? Because I don’t always and I know that for myself.”
“Give yourself more grace.”
“Allow yourself to unfold your arms, unclench your jaw, and remove your shoulders from your cheeks. Because what you feel like you can’t control right now, you’re taking away from the things that you actually can control.”
Music by: Noir Et Blanc Vie
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