“Growth doesn't happen where you feel safe; it happens outside your comfort zone.”
What do expectations and your wildest dreams have in common?? (spoiler: it has nothing to with being unachievable)
This week you will learn exactly how to challenge the beliefs that have been holding you back from living your most authentic, fulfilling life. Breaking free from the cycle of self-expectations, sabotage and people pleasing, requires you to explore the hidden impact of the should’s and if only’s, and the stories you are subconsciously telling yourself. Tune in to discover a path to personal growth, and to transform your mindset and your capacity to welcome change.
Many of us find ourselves caught in a complex web of expectations that limits our ability to live a life based on our true desires. Especially us people-pleasers, who may feel pressured to prioritize others' expectations over our own wants and needs. However, by asking the right questions, it's possible to break free from these constraints and discover newfound freedoms. It's important to identify the areas of your life where these expectations have taken root, so that you can chart your own course and interpret situations on your own terms. By doing so, you can embark on a journey of self-discovery and fulfillment, if that’s what you want.
Identifying behaviors and decisions that are driven by feelings of obligation helps you create a foundation for change. Slowly, it becomes easier to uncover what you really desire and change the narrative of your life, reclaim control and create a more meaningful experience that aligns with your authentic desires. If it sounds scary, it’s because it can be, but the results driven by aligned action are as rewarding as they are scary.
In this episode, I am going to give you, not only the theory but also two meaningful and transformational exercises to start, or continue, deconstructing the thoughts and behaviors that don’t serve you anymore. Even if you are not ready to make actual changes right now, having these tools is a way of preparing yourself for the next phase of transformation and growth.
"If you stay in a place of desiring, you will never be in a place of having."
Topics discussed:
Why is it important to question your should statements.
Choosing your patterns and the “stories”you tell yourself.
The paradox of Fear vs. Desire,
Two exercises for mindset changes.
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