“If you are not fed love on a silver spoon, then you will learn to lick it off of knives..”
In this episode of the Stillness Matters podcast, Sara converses with Rachel Brown, a multifaceted professional - a marriage and family therapist, registered nurse, midwife, and mother of three. Rachel brings her extensive expertise and personal experiences to the table, providing invaluable insights into understanding and healing mother and father wounds.
Key Learnings:
Impact of Childhood Experiences:
Childhood Shaping Defaults: Rachel explains how our childhood experiences influence our default programming and internal voices.
Effects of Critical Parents: The consequences of having critical or emotionally distant parents on our behaviors and self-perception.
Acknowledge Over Glorify: The importance of recognizing and healing childhood wounds rather than romanticizing them as growth catalysts.
Balancing Positivity and Healing:
Authentic Pain Processing: Emphasizing the significance of feeling and processing pain authentically instead of masking it with forced positivity.
Making Space for Healing: Encouraging individuals to acknowledge and work through difficult experiences without rushing for silver linings.
Personal Identity and Self-Love:
Independent Self-Worth: Reflecting on recognizing one's worth and potential independently of past traumas or external validations.
Compassionate Self-Discovery: Advocating for self-compassion and resilience through embracing complexities and prioritizing healing.
Forgiveness and Healing:
Impact of Parents: Exploring the lasting effects of childhood wounds inflicted by parents and loved ones.
Forgiveness Journey: Emphasizing forgiveness as part of the healing journey, focusing on self-compassion and releasing shame and guilt.
Safe Space Creation: Highlighting the need to create a safe space to confront and process wounds before embarking on the forgiveness process.
Setting Boundaries: Importance of setting boundaries in relationships to prevent triggers.
Healing the Inner Child:
Inner Child Delight: Exploring individualized healing journeys and delighting in one's inner child.
Navigating Parent Relationships: Strategies for navigating relationships with parents to support personal growth.
Self-Liberation through Forgiveness: Portraying forgiveness as a personal journey toward self-liberation rather than absolving others.
Connect with Rachel:
Email: rachel@mindmombodyrn.com
Socials: @mindmombodyrn
Publications: www.mindmombodyrn.com
Podcast: The MindMomBodyRN Podcast & YouTube
Free coaching call www.mindmombodyrn.com
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