People pleasers are liars. We say yes when we want to say no. We tell you what you want to hear, not what we actually think. We agree when we disagree. We give fake compliments. The list goes on, but I don't feel like adding more because I'm hungry and want to go get dinner. How's that for honesty!
I've written a book titled, The People Pleasers Guide To Pissing People Off, To Improve Your Relationships - Including the One You Have With Yourself
I need your help - pleeease! Wow, it's only taken me three years to spit that out!!! 😱
Are you a people pleaser?
Do you spend a great amount of time helping people out? To the point you wear yourself out?
Do you avoid conflict? Go to great lengths to keep the peace?
Do you neglect your own needs and strive to meet everyone else's?
Do you agree when you actually disagree?
Do you tell little white lies to avoid uncomfortable situations and people?
Do you take on other peoples problems to resolve and fix?
Do you have a hard time receiving help? Asking for help?
Do you feel lost or unsure of your purpose?
Do you feel like it's your duty to make others happy?
Do you feel obligated to be the planner, entertainer, always the fun one for everyone else's sake?
Do you feel bad or guilty saying no? Say yes even though inside you're screaming noooo!
Do you feel like the giver in all your relationships? Jeez, those greedy takers accept everything I offer!😜
Do you feel responsible for soothing other peoples emotions?
Do you over explain, justify, and seek validation for things you do?
Are you kinda, sorta resentful? C'mon, no judgement. 😆 Without awareness we can't change.
I could go on, but I'll save it for the book. Speaking of. . . It went through the first round of editing and as I'm reading through - I'm pleased with most of it, but it's not quite where I want it. It needs more examples. More relatable stories. More humor. More sarcasm. More serious stories of how people pleasing has sucked the life out of you, held you back, or caused you to feel resent, regret, anger, or powerlessness.
Are you currently stuck in the throws of people pleasing? Is it negatively impacting your life? In what ways/areas?
Have you grown and evolved from being a chronic pleaser? How?
Please, I'd love to have you shoot me an email at jamie@jamieberris.com with a few sentences or paragraphs about how people pleasing has impacted your life - no matter if you're in the thick of it, transforming through, or you've recoverd from the disease to please. Your story (completely anonymous) may be used to inspire my writing and grace the pages in some shape or form in this handy dandy guide.
Time sensitive - Even though I'm a recovering people pleaser (okay still a work in progress) I really don't want to piss my editor off and not meet my deadline. Please respond by June 15th . . . if you truly feel like it, not because the pleaser in you feels obligated. I promise I won't be pissed at you if you don't!😊
Know a people pleaser? Please ask them to contribute.
Rooting for you!
Be real. Be raw. Be Authentic.
Jamie
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