Summary
https://kirstendsamuel.com/11lies
https://www.beyondthewallspodcast.com
Join my conversation with Kirsten Samuels and she shares her personal journey of dealing with her husband's pornography addiction and the impact it had on their marriage. She discusses the initial shock and emotions she experienced upon learning about the addiction. Kirsten highlights the importance of seeking help and counseling, as well as the role of a restoration team in their recovery process. She also reveals her own struggles with depression and childhood trauma. Despite the challenges, Kirsten emphasizes the transformation and growth they experienced in their marriage. This conversation explores the journey of healing and restoration after experiencing the pain and devastation of addiction and betrayal. The power of communication and community is highlighted as essential in overcoming challenges and finding support. Breaking the cycle of secrecy and shame is emphasized, as well as the importance of seeking help and being vulnerable. The conversation also addresses the lies of darkness and the need to understand the root of pain and addiction. Discovering intrinsic value, challenging stereotypes, and embracing forgiveness are key themes. Rebuilding trust, creating safe spaces for communication, and learning to express emotions are crucial in the healing process. The conversation concludes with the importance of equipping oneself for continued growth. In this conversation, Kirsten D Samuel shares her journey of healing and restoration in her marriage after discovering her husband's struggle with pornography addiction. The conversation highlights the importance of building trust through actions, having real conversations about the root issues, and being honest and open with oneself and one's partner. Kirsten emphasizes the power of a restoration team and the deep intimacy that can be achieved through vulnerability and forgiveness. She also encourages individuals to trust in God's plan, surrender their own control, and choose healing over victimhood. The conversation concludes with the importance of finding support and rejecting the shame-provoking lies associated with addiction.
00:00 Introduction and Personal Journey
01:30 Background and Meeting Spouse
03:43 Initial Reactions and Emotions
04:11 Seeking Help and Counseling
05:37 Beginning the Recovery Journey
06:53 Challenges and Healing
08:15 Understanding the Addiction
09:28 Intensive Marriage Counseling
10:42 Discovering Personal Trauma
14:39 Involvement of Restoration Team
21:33 Healing Childhood Trauma
23:10 Transformation of Marriage
23:49 The Power of Communication and Community
25:03 The Importance of Seeking Help
26:17 Breaking the Cycle of Secrecy and Shame
27:34 The Value of Vulnerability and Support
29:06 The Bold-Faced Lies of Darkness
31:28 Understanding the Root of Pain and Addiction
34:07 Discovering Your Intrinsic Value
35:06 Challenging Stereotypes and Misconceptions
36:51 The Journey of Forgiveness
39:05 Healing and Rebuilding Trust
41:00 Creating Safe Spaces for Communication
44:31 Learning to Identify and Express Emotions
47:26 Rebuilding Friendship and Authenticity
48:03 Equipping Ourselves for Continued Growth
48:25 Building Trust and Taking Action
49:10 Having the Real Conversation
50:07 Being Honest and Open
51:28 The Power of a Restoration Team
52:55 Intimacy and Healing
53:58 Praying for Each Other
55:43 God's Miracles and Intimacy
56:41 Trusting God's Plan
57:55 Surrendering and Letting Go
59:21 God's Faithfulness and Healing
01:03:10 Choosing Healing Over Victimhood
01:05:08 Going Through the Pain for Healing
01:06:49 Surgery or Death
01:08:48 Finding Support and Resources
01:10:36 Rejecting Shameful Lies
