Our lives are the results of patterns and routines. We may even find that we have patterns in our lives that are keeping us from moving forward. Such as patterns of offence. What is your default pattern when you are offended? You are not able to live life without being offended. So we need to know how we will react when we are (Luke 17:1). Here are 3 patterns to avoid and 4 patterns to help you work through offences: 🔴 THE 3 DO NOT’S: 1. Do not blow up. (Romans 12:19) Leave room for God to take care of it. 2. Do not gossip. (Matt 18:15 & Prov 6:16-19) When we spread gossip we are doing something that God says in His word He hates! 3. Do not ignore it. (Jer 6:14 & Heb 12:15) We need to acknowledge how hurt we have been but then deal with it in the right way. 🟢 THE DO’S: 1. Acknowledge that it affects my relationship with God. (Luke 6:37-39) we should ask ourselves, “what are we measuring out?” God will deal with us as we deal with others 2. Acknowledge your hurts. (Ps 39:2-3 & James 5:16) When we don’t deal with our hurts, we ruminate and let them fester in our minds. We need healing from those offences. 3. Just pray. (Matt 5:43-44 & Eph 4:26-27) It’s hard to stay offended when we are praying for those who offend us. It helps you more than it helps them. 4. Deal with the root (Heb 12:15) More often than not, the root is rejection, and if left , will hurt the relationship between you and God.