In episode 6 of Empowered Sobriety Abby & Lindsay share what they are releasing and leaving behind in 2022.
Abby shares first and lists 3 things she is releasing and leaving in 2022.
#1 - Perfectionism - Abby describes perfectionism as one of her trauma responses. She shares memories of coming home and cleaning when dysregulated or activated. Creating this sense of control while cleaning, created safety. Abby also speaks to caring about what others think. The belief is if she is not living her life a certain way, then people will be mad at her or will judge her. Coming from a fear of being outcast. Abby addresses being a recovering judger and people pleaser. She is continuously redirecting her judger part and people please part. Lindsay reflects on Abby's share about trying to control her environment and/or those around her. Lindsay speaks to this part wanting to create safety. Abby continues to share her experiences trying to create safety in herself and her environment.
#2 - Control - Abby speaks to control being one of her survival mechanisms. Controlling her own surroundings created safety by not having to experience punishment or disruption in her home. Abby continues to see where she is trying to control, speaking to that part and provide reassurance that everyone is having their own experience. Abby talks about relinquishing control in a recent situation with her ex-husband. Lindsay presents a question for the listeners: When was the last time you just sat in stillness and silence to be present with yourself with no distractions? Lindsay and Abby discuss stillness and being present as a practice.
#3 - Being at war with my body - Abby reflects on being in Kauai recently and just how aware she was to everyone's bodies surrounding her on the island and being judgmental or her own body. Abby speaks about her relationship to her body and not being able to touch or look at her own body. Being in an accident in Kauai brought such awareness to her body by focusing on healing when she got back. When we ask, the universe delivers.
Lindsay then shares the 3 things she is releasing and leaving behind in 2022.
#1 - Need to hold & control - Lindsay shares how the holding plays out in her day to day life especially through her body. Such as, gripping the steering wheel extra tight for long periods of time while driving or clenching her entire body at her desk. Her verrucous veins and gut issues have been indicators for her. Lindsay gives an example about going to get a colonic and things not going smoothly. Lindsay lists some behaviors she has begun to shift to lower stress levels and start releasing. Abby asks about where this pattern of holding comes from and Lindsay shares about when it started in her childhood.
#2 - Proving to romantic partners I am worthy of love - Lindsay talks about how she has shown up in romantic relationships as "not enough" and needing to prove herself and prove that she is worthy of being loved and seen. Lindsay shares how Elementum (life coaching program) revealed this to her and how she plans to work with all her shadows and integrate all parts of herself, moving forward. Lindsay addresses an Elementum coach giving her a mirror practice to repair, to apologize and forgive herself.
#3 - Stop trying to heal through shame & judgment - Lindsay elaborates, explaining that she tries to shame herself to make better choices. She also speaks to all of the judgment that comes up when she doesn't "do the right thing". Eating a certain type of food or skipping a workout, etc. Lindsay shares about how we cannot shame or judge ourselves into healing. Healing comes from love and compassion. Follow us on Instagram @empoweredsobrietypodcast and email us at empoweredsobrietypodcast@gmail.com for comments or questions.
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