This week on Empowered Sobriety, Abby and Lindsay walk you through how to forgive yourself for something unforgivable as well as how to forgive others who hurt you. Forgiveness is a huge part of our healing journey and forgiveness is part of how you stay sober!
What we discuss…
00:00 Intro
02:10 Lindsay shares that during her first two years of sobriety, she had many old stuck feelings come up and how forgiveness work was a huge part of getting through those times.
03:00 Abby shares her experiences in AA meetings where she witnessed other attendees stuck in shame.
04:27 What IS forgiveness and is NOT forgiveness?
05:13 What is Spiritual Bypassing?
06:38 Part of forgiving yourself and forgiving others is validating our experience and feelings and releasing stuck shame, guilt and anger.
08:58 Important points of forgiveness and how self compassion plays a role in healing shame and guilt.
11:28 How Abby & Lindsay release their anger and a few tips on how you can release anger.
15:52 Forgiveness isn’t condoning the actions or events but forgiving ourselves for the limiting beliefs we have about ourselves or the limiting beliefs we have about someone else that hurt us.
16:26 How forgiveness has helped Abby’s relationship between her and her mother and how her anger release work has helped her find self compassion and compassion for her mother.
25:45 Lindsay talks about how sobriety and forgiveness has played a large role in healing her relationship with her mother.
26:50 How to deal with forgiveness when the other person has passed away.
28:30 Steps for Forgiveness: “Forgiveness” Statements and “The Truth Is” Statements.
31:21 The one with the most self awareness is the one with the most responsibility.
34:00 “Know your tribe!” How Lindsay has processed shame and guilt and how she transformed them into self compassion and forgiving herself.
38:38 How Abby has forgiven herself for how she showed up in her marriage.
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