Fault-finding is a typical — and unhelpful — way to bring our critical energy into relationships.
In this episode of Wholehearted Loving, Georgianna and Steph explore the tension between seeing what’s wrong and allowing what’s right. Georgianna shares the moment she caught herself ready to correct her partner mid-kindness and realized her old habit of “quality control” was blocking closeness. Steph reflects on her childhood training to “help by fixing,” how she swung to the other extreme of never offering input, and what balance feels like now.
Together they reveal how nitpicking acts as low-grade fight energy, how compassion turns critique into connection, and how letting people win with you makes relationships feel safe again — for both sides.
Discover how:
Awareness turns criticism into choice and trust
Nitpicking reveals unspoken fight energy ready to move
Ease and connection grow when you practice seeing what’s working
"Like finding gold." – Alma W.
"The best therapy I've ever done for myself." – Sanjeev B.
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With love,
Georgianna & Steph
