Hello everyone, whether it's morning or evening where you are!
Today's topic is 'change', inspired by Brad Stulberg's latest book, "The Master of Change". Change is a constant process that never ends, whether we like it or not. The COVID pandemic has shown us that we cannot return to how things were before, and we must adapt to what is happening now and what is yet to come.
In this episode, we will discuss two important aspects: allostasis and the difference between "having" and "being".
Although allostasis is a physiological term, it can also be applied in a psychological context. It refers to the dynamic and predictive process of adapting to stress and changes. This process is valuable if it is balanced and actively supported, such as by working with a therapist. It's like having four rooms in your house and always ensuring that at least one is clean so you have space to rest, recharge, rethink, and process the change.
Now, let's talk about "having" and "being". When you say you have a particular job or car, you become dependent on those external factors. If you are not prepared for change, which is inevitable, you will feel its effects whether you like it or not. Your worth will be based on your possessions, and without them, who are you? However, if you shift your perspective to "being" - for example, "I am a marketing professional" or "I am a driver" - your value will depend solely on you, not on external factors.
This same principle can also be applied to mental health. You are not your fear, sadness, or pain. By dissociating yourself from these feelings and emotions and recognising them as something happening to you, you can empower yourself and overcome depression and anxiety.
Dear friend, you are a unique and valuable human being with a range of skills, talents, experiences, feelings, and emotions. Whatever happens to you does not define who you are or where you will be in the future because everything is constantly changing.
As always, we love you!
Klaudia & Niko
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Mentioned in the episode:
"Master of Change: How to Excel When Everything Is Changing – Including You" by Brad Stulberg
"The art & science of mastering change" - Rich Roll podcast with Brad Stulberg
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