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Meet my new friends Andy Nguyen and Nuke Kombian, 2 out of 3 of the Co-Founders of Kings of Hearts. In the words of Andy, KOH is “a platform where we gather men and also women, to dive into the conversation around modern day masculinity and how we can challenge the status quo. How can we reimagine what that can mean for us all today so that we can move forward positively and consciously.”

This episode was based entirely around the topic of Masculinity - a conversation I have been wanting to have for quite some time now. You might wonder why I am providing men the platform to speak when they have been in the “drivers seat” for so long already...  but the more I navigate my own journey with identity and more specifically feminism, I feel that you can not have feminism without masculinity. I view it is a matter of working from the inside - if we can help men, in turn, change will begin to trickle down and impact other areas and minority groups. 

Andy, Nuke, and myself chatted about:

• how do you define masculinity?
• redefining “toxic masculinity”, and addressing the unconscious masculine
• how KOH help men have these difficult conversations amongst themselves and each other, through remaining curious
• I asked them both what stereotypes around masculinity do you feel are detrimental to society as a whole?
  • “man up”
  • expressing their emotions
• masculine energetic & feminine energetic  
• suppressing your emotions - how does it manifest in our lives if we never face these emotions?
• changing the vocabulary and labels we have around certain words / stigmas (i.e. patriarchy) 
• leading with vulnerability (“You can be vulnerable and it takes nothing away from your masculinity.” -Nuke)
• tips & resources for some one wanting to bring more awareness into their lives and what steps they can take to move forward
• we finished off the conversation with Nuke asking myself what my biggest take away from our conversation was

Truthfully, this conversation can not be summed up in a few bullet points so check out the link below to give it a listen.

“Men who win on patriarchal terms end up losing in terms of their substantive quality of life. They choose patriarchal manhood over loving connection, first foregoing self-love and then the love they could give and receive that would connect them to others.” -bell hooks


CONNECT WITH KINGS OF HEARTS:

KOH Website

KOH Instagram

KOH Podcast

MENTIONED:

John Wineland

BOOKS:

The Will To Change by bell hooks

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer

No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert A Glover

The Mask of Masculinity by Lewis Howes

PODCASTS:

The UNcivilized Podcast

ManTalks Podcast

Sacred Suns Podcast

For more information, resources, and detailed show notes check out my website!