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Every year we write our New Year’s resolutions and then we beat ourselves up when we “fail.” We are here to get you halfway to the impossibly high expectations we put on ourselves. We want attainable and sustainable. Stop expecting so much; we aim for so much that’s not possible and then our mental health suffers.
For all the goals/resolutions that you want to do, we are here to help. Contact us for help with your insurmountable goals. A coach is a great person to help you break down the big goals into manageable steps. If you're not ready for a coach find someone who will hold you accountable, cheer you on and check in with you and support you.
Small changes will help you feel successful so there' s no shame with scaling back your goals and starting small. Have compassion for yourself and what you really want to do. Following through will be easier when you have goals that you actually want to do and believe in.
To have success with your goal:
- Anchor it in: Sticky notes will help you remember your goal but you need to move them around weekly or your brain will get used to them and no longer see them
- Habit stacking: Pair your habit with something you like to do. Example: watching your favorite show while on the treadmill; saving your favorite podcast for your walk.
- Celebrate when you do it right! Reward yourself regularly. When you ask a lot of yourself you also need to give back to yourself.
- We are not going to do it perfectly so let yourself off the hook once in awhile and keep trying.
- If trying to get exercise in, remember that any movement counts when you are older. Vacuuming, climbing your stairs, walking the dog.
For 2022, what will you choose NOT to do?
What Becky is not going to do:
- I am not going to respond to passive-aggressive subtext anymore. I will let adults take charge of their own emotions. I will ignore, be a gray rock or walk away if I need to.
- I am not going to have packaged sweets. I will make my own treats, once a week. For 7 years, every January, I have tried to quit sugar. This is more reasonable and realistic.
- I am not going to be mean to myself from 10am -12pm every day
What Kristen is not going to do:
- I am not going to sit all day long; I am going to move more throughout the day. I enjoy walking, swimming or biking. On the days I can’t work out I will stretch or get up and walk around all day long
- I will not over-schedule myself every day. I am an overachiever and need to scale it back. I want more balance in my life and to stop running from my feelings by being “busy” and giving a little too much.
- I am working on loving my body. This requires baby steps if you're used to hating your body. Find a body part that you appreciate and can love: eyes, smile, elbow. Appreciate what your body does for you. Can you walk? Can you see? Did you bring a child into the world?
Becky and Kristen have their first disagreement! It's over The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein. Don't worry, though; they work it out. :)
