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Today, Becky and Kristen talk about how to attract your highest love to you! Loving yourself helps you attract your highest levels soul love. Your best soulmate match.
We have mentioned things before about attracting your best love to you or attracting the things that you love the most to you, whether it be a job, finances, love, friendship--whatever is good for you. By the same token, we attract where we are right now to us, too.
So, if we are self-abusive, we ignore ourselves, we don’t love our job-- we are doing a job only to pay the bills but we hate it, we just don’t really love ourselves or our lives, well, that is also what shows up. Like attracts like so we want to discuss the importance of loving yourself as well as HOW to love yourself into that space where the good things will show up, including your highest vibrational match…soul love.
Becky likes that part Kristen mentioned about how when you are in that space of really loving yourself you will find people—friends, not just romantic—who are happy with who they are and happy with who you are. And on the flip side, when we’re in that lower or self-defeatest place or are just so mean to ourselves we’ll find people who will mirror that back to us.
In Becky’s marriage, when she is not loving herself she cannot even accept his love. We just have to be really careful with where we’re at and what we are projecting and believing about ourselves.
Kristen feels that, when you don’t feel self-loving and can’t receive the love what happens energetically is that when we reject ourselves our partner starts to reject themselves. So the energy starts to feed on each other. So if you are just in a really low self-hating energy and you’re taking it out on the person, they can feel rejected because you are taking it out on them, which is another way of seeing it.
An example is someone yelling, “Why can’t you just vacuum the floor when I ask you to?” You’re not really mad at the person, you’re just kind of mad at yourself but just projecting it out onto them and then they sort of feel like, “Ooh, what did I do? I’m sorry, I must be a bad person or something” and then there is this rejection cycle that starts. So one of you has to pull yourself out of that dance and get back to your own self-love so that the communication can start and the damage there can be repaired. You don’t want to cause this long-term resentment. And this is later on down the line when we’re talking about the in’s and out’s of communication style inside of a love relationship.
But in order to attract your own best love to you, you want to BE your own best love. People say to date yourself and you should do all the things that you want your future partner to do and that is true. And being okay being alone is huge. Being sovereign: taking care of your health in the best way, feeling a sense of confidence and high self-esteem, doing the activities and things that you love to do, finding the best job for you, and jumping into your passions puts you on the trajectory of the higher version of yourself.
This higher version of yourself is the person you WANT to be regardless if that person ever even shows up. The person coming into your life will then just be like the icing on the cake.
Becky has been living in like the Crucible the last five years with a lot of stress with moves and losing her second stillborn son Bennett, and so her husband Scott has done a lot of his own inner work. He is really good with himself. She doesn’t lash out. She goes inward and is mean to herself and not to others so when she can’t receive love and Scott sees her like that it makes him sad for her, not really rejected himself.
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