Sheila continues her discussion on love and emotional abuse. In reflecting, she states that we must do more than survive emotional abuse, we must thrive. With that said, how is it done? We must apply the same components of loving others to loving ourselves: affection, care, trust, honest, respect and recognition. We need the same things that we give so effortlessly. Once we apply love inwardly, we can begin rebuilding our self-esteem (which is often diminished in an emotionally abusive relationship. According to Nathaniel Brenden there are 6 pillars of self-esteem: living consciously, self-acceptance, self-responsibility, self-assertiveness, living purposefully and practicing self-integrity. Additionally, Sheila critically reflects on "emotional equilibrium" and the components that ensure our emotional balance.