Today I share with you guys how I applied this framework in the context of a goal I had in a relationship goal I had in regards to raising my children: I wanted to be able to instruct them and be connected with them when they were teenagers.
When making goals, look at your life through the lens of the 7 areas and decide which one needs your most attention. Remember if your are struggling to decide, lean on your values and make it a value based decision. Which problem could you solve in one of the 7 areas that would honor your top values? Have you discovered your values and chacter yet? Go back to the Podcast episode and do the work!!!
I walked you guys through a problem I was having when I was younger raising three kids at the time. My husband and I were living with other people and the people I lived with had more control over my children than I did. I felt so powerless and helpless. I wanted to be the one who instructed my children. I wanted my children to listen and obey me, not just the people we lived with.
I decided to take a parenting class and get some tools that I was lacking as a parent. I will share that resource with you guys tomorrow in terms of what was in the class! I share just in case you may be intrested.
As I went though the class, I was able to get the information and than began to apply it. As I applied it, it gave me a way to measure my progress by how I used to be with my children and where I was now as a result from applying the tools I had gotten.
Here are some questions you can ask yourself in the context of the goals you have...
I was able to be Specific. What do you want? How are you going to get what you want? Why is this importent to you?
I saw what I wanted to do in regards to how I manged my children. I knew what I wanted, I knew how (the parenting class) and I knew why. I knew I wanted to have quality connections with my kids and have peace in my heart.
It was Measurable. How will you know when you made progress?
I was able to see the results by what progress was made after I applied what I learned in the parenting class.
It was attainable. Does this make sense in the context of your life being in the season you are in?
Being a parent is a life long process that is more invloved while they live in the home. This was attainable because being connected is a value I have and is a universal truth to all who would seek relationships. Life is relationships.
Results- What outcomes are being produced?I have to pay attention to the outcome in regards to how I was accomplishing my goal. Did I complete the parenting class? Was I applying what I learned? Was I being consistent? Was I holding myself accountable daily to what I wanted to do with my children?
Time-How much time would this take? In the context of being a parent, this would be lifelong but my role would change as they grow up. This is transformative process.
Are you willing to hold yourself accountable? Does the why compel you on the days you feel like quiting?
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