In this episode, I respond to a question from an anonymous listener who writes:
“Hey Kyira, I could really use some perspective on something that’s been weighing on me. Lately, I’ve been feeling like I’m always disappointing my partner because I’m hardly ever in the mood for sex.
It’s not that I don’t care about them or that I’m not attracted to them — I do. But it feels like no matter how much I try to psych myself up or convince myself it’ll be fine, I just can’t get there. By the time the day is over, I’m totally drained, and the idea of being intimate feels overwhelming instead of connecting.
I’m usually a pretty energetic person, so it’s confusing to feel this shut down in this one area. And every time I say no, I end up carrying so much guilt and this nagging thought that I’m failing somehow. How do I even start to understand what’s going on here and stop feeling like I’m letting them down all the time?”
We explore why desire can feel so elusive — even in relationships filled with love — and how shame and exhaustion can make it harder to connect. Inside this episode, we’ll talk about:
If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying the weight of sexual expectations you can’t meet, this episode is for you.
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