In this episode of the Untethering Shame podcast, Kyira and Sabrina Trobek delve into the intricate relationship between core beliefs, shame, and anxiety. They explore how core beliefs shape our self-perception and influence our behaviors, often leading to feelings of inadequacy. Sabrina explains the development of these beliefs, emphasizing the impact of childhood experiences and cultural norms. The conversation highlights the significance of setting boundaries, taking responsibility for our emotions, and navigating relationships that reinforce our core beliefs. Sabrina shares her four pillars of change and emphasizes the need for self-compassion and gradual growth in the journey towards emotional resilience.
We covered:
- Core beliefs can either empower or undermine our self-worth.
- Shame and anxiety are deeply interconnected with core beliefs.
- Changing core beliefs is a long-term process that requires effort.
- Cultural influences play a significant role in shaping our self-perception.
- Recognizing and challenging negative thoughts is crucial for growth.
- Anxiety often stems from a lack of belief in our own capabilities.
- We can build resilience by addressing our fears and worries.
- Understanding the origins of our beliefs can help in their transformation.
- It's important to create a supportive environment for ourselves and others.
- Self-acceptance is a key component in overcoming feelings of inadequacy. Anxiety is often rooted in our beliefs about our ability to handle situations.
- Avoiding triggers can reinforce anxiety rather than alleviate it.
- Creating a strategy to manage anxiety can boost confidence.
- Understanding the origins of our core beliefs is crucial for change.
- Awareness is the first step in changing behavior and beliefs.
- Self-worth is tied to our ability to set healthy boundaries.
- Taking responsibility for our feelings empowers us to make changes.
- Relationships can reinforce negative core beliefs, requiring careful navigation.
- It's important to differentiate between our emotions and our reactions.
- Gradual change is more sustainable than drastic shifts.
More about Sabrina:
I am a registered counsellor and is the author of Not Good Enough: Understanding your Core Belief and Anxiety. I am also a clinical supervisor and public speaker with a masters in counseling psychology. Prior to becoming a counsellor, I was a teacher, vice principal and school counselor for over 20 years. I have extensive training in resolving past trauma and the impact trauma has on a person including anxiety and core belief.
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Chapters:
- 00:00 - Understanding Core Beliefs and Shame
- 06:02 - The Development of Core Beliefs
- 11:48 - Cultural Influences on Self-Worth
- 18:00 - Challenging Anxiety and Core Beliefs
- 23:51 - Connecting Anxiety to Core Beliefs
- 25:57 - Understanding Anxiety and Core Beliefs
- 27:29 - The Importance of Awareness in Therapy
- 29:24 - The Four Pillars of Change
- 30:48 - Navigating Boundaries and Self-Worth
- 34:33 - Taking Responsibility and Avoiding Blame
- 39:44 - Relationships and Core Beliefs
- 46:57 - Resources for Further Growth
