Have you ever walked into a room, and it suddenly felt silent? Or caught someone’s gaze and wondered what they were thinking? Maybe you texted someone and didn’t hear back for days. What was your immediate reaction—was it personal? In today’s solo episode, host Kyira Wackett explores how our brains often make us the central hub of every story, assuming that everything is about us. We’ll dive into how this thinking distances us from our authentic selves and how to shift focus back to living in our own stories.
Key Takeaways:
The Brain’s Tendency to Make It About You: Our minds are wired to assume centrality in every scenario—but that often leads to misinterpretation and unnecessary stress.
Breaking the Cycle: Learning how to challenge those assumptions and see others’ reactions as reflections of their experiences, not your worth.
The Space Between Caring and Over-Identifying: Caring about others doesn’t mean living your life based on their judgments or opinions.
Values as Anchors: How to use your values as a grounding force rather than relying on external validation.
Reflection Questions:
How quickly do you assume something is about you in interactions with others?
Whose story are you living in—yours or someone else’s?
What’s one assumption or worry you can release today?
Memorable Quotes:
“We spend so much time in other people’s stories—worrying about the role we play and often making ourselves the central focus and pain point in their lives.”
“There is a lot of space between not wanting to be an asshole and allowing other people’s assumptions and judgments—both real and perceived—to affect the way you show up in the world.”
“It’s more important to check in with yourself, know your values, and anchor your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors on those values rather than worry about how someone else experiences them.”
Call to Action:
Comment Prompt: Let us know in the comments what’s coming up for you after this episode. What’s one worry or judgment you’re ready to let go of?
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