Become Their Best Listener: Crossing the Blue Line
“At some point I realized it wasn’t about me, it is all about all of us, the team,” shared Sieds Rienks, a top-level executive, now coach and mediator from the Netherlands. Sieds sees connectedness as the foundation of all leadership. “We create connectedness first and foremost through deep listening,” says Sieds. How do you be the best listener they have ever had? When people feel really listened to, they feel seen and they develop trust in you. Listening you discover their deeper values and needs and people feel appreciated. Appreciation is so foundational since most people feel some level of insecurity about themselves. Listening builds appreciation helps people to take the giant inner step of letting go of their fixed ideas about themselves and each other. When people feel really listened to, they cross the blue line inside of them and become ready to really engage with the other.
