It became clear to Rick Gage, master facilitator and coach at a Human Workplace and Growth Leaders Network and grandfather of six, that what had been most important to him early on in life, getting validation, being perfect and moving up in the world was not about Rick, but about unlearning some of what little Ricky had learned as a child growing up. This shift in perspective gave rise to a deep, unflinching curiosity about life in Rick and a commitment to keep serving and growing. What is mine to do here? How can I grow from this experience? Rick’s wife, who passed away recently, was always reflecting on the question: What does this give you the opportunity to feel? It turns out when we really allow ourselves to feel, feelings lose their fangs. They no longer control us but instead give us insight into what is ours to learn and let go of, and what body and intuitive wisdom to pay attention to. Completely accepting our feelings each now moment connects us to the vibrancy of life. Rick contemplates questions over extended periods of time, all in an atmosphere of deep love and acceptance. He reflects: What if life is something I can’t screw up?
