How to reconcile the idea of varnasrama, stri-dharma, etc. with the idea of cooperating in Krsna's service? Why different gurus give different instructions, sometimes telling ladies to be submissive, sometimes that couples should be like friends and cooperate?
Let us consider the difference between the western idea (when a woman takes a leading position), the Vedic system (when a husband leads and the wife follows him) and the Vaishnava standard (when both serve Krsna) in family relations. We examine why the western type of relationship does not work and how the Vaishnava standard differs from the western one, although it may resemble it outwardly. Why do conflicts arise in relationships, and how can they be avoided.
