Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and author of "Till Stress Do Us Part" Elizabeth Earnshaw @lizlistens deeply understands the unique challenges couples are facing at this time and how our nervous systems and unconscious are running the show. This episode will create so many lightbulb moments for you-- especially regarding how we can upwardly edit the stress in our lives, the ways we lie to ourselves about the stress that we can remove, the unique stress of the Gentle Parenting movement on our marriages, the Legacy dreams that we're unconsciously keeping (causing us disconnection and resentment with our partners and dissatisfaction in our lives), and at the core of this conversation, we can't stress (see what I did there? 😊) enough that we are relational when we are regulated and our relationships suffer when we are in a stressed state. I love Liz's work because like mine, she is getting to the heart and deeper reason we are struggling in this realm, not the tip of the iceberg. Enjoy! You can connect with Liz at her IG: @lizlistens
Or her website: https://elizabethearnshaw.com/
And you can purchase her book: https://www.abebooks.com/servlet/BookDetailsPL?bi=32120525080&dest=usa&ref_=ps_ggl_18382194370&cm_mmc=ggl-_-US_Shopp_Trade0to10-_-product_id=COM9781649632579NEW-_-keyword=&gad_source=4&gclid=CjwKCAiAqrG9BhAVEiwAaPu5zjoQ13LZOFr-1CHqKWGuLOxcmogeYz5LH7l4KLXxaM4qUPUsP_760RoCfrcQAvD_BwE
Takeaways
Stress significantly impacts communication and relational skills.
Physiological responses to stress can hinder effective communication.
Co-regulation is essential for maintaining healthy relationships.
Identity and role confusion are common issues in modern parenting.
Financial pressures can exacerbate relationship tensions.
Gentle parenting can create conflict between partners.
Creating a sense of safety is crucial for relational health.
Repairing after conflict is more important than perfection.
Understanding the underlying issues behind conflicts can lead to better resolutions.
Self-awareness and managing one's physiology can improve relationship dynamics.
Chapters
6:14 The Impact of Stress on Communication
12:22 Physiological Responses and Relationship Dynamics
18:15 Navigating Emotional and Rational Decision-Making
24:06 The Role of Values in Stress Management
30:09 Confronting Stressors and Making Tough Choices
38:20 Legacy Dreams and Personal Choices
42:06 Identity and Role Confusion in Relationships
46:57 Navigating Parenting Challenges
49:23 The Impact of Societal Pressures on Parenting
55:56 Co-regulation and Relationship Dynamics
1:01:18 Empowerment Through Self-awareness and Connection
