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On Wednesdays, we talk about Codependency.

And we're doing it with Erika Wright, a codependency and spiritual counselor who — with blunt straightforwardness, loving kindness, and a strong Boston accent — helps people get out of their own way and have a better life.

Codependency is confusing, nebulous, and everywhere (including inside our bodies). We can't talk and learn about it enough as we ushed in this New Paradigm of Interdependence.

Erika and I discuss the cultural legacy that shaped our codependent society, how to heal our relationship with reality, how to release attachment to outcome and shaping others, internalizing unconditional love, learning to accept multiple opposing truths, uncovering authenticity and trust, the power of choice and the privilege of healing.

I loved talking about one of my favorite topics with this wise woman, she is so solid, self-reflective and relatable.

Speaking of relatable, we did throw in some F Bombs in this one, so make sure you listen to it your adult time (because I am sure your children have never heard the F word come out of your mouth)!

Takeaways

• Codependency is the result of various societal factors and involves control, manipulation, martyrdom, and a disregard for one's own feelings.
• Healing codependency requires healing one's relationship with reality and embracing vulnerability.
• Parenting can be an opportunity to learn about relationships and break the cycle of codependency.
• Self-validation and self-acceptance are crucial in overcoming codependency.
• Codependency is a learned behavior that can be unlearned and replaced with healthier patterns. Authenticity and trust are key in overcoming codependency and accessing one's true self.
• Healing is a privilege and a duty, both for oneself and for the collective.
• Choice is a powerful tool in shaping one's reality and embracing personal responsibility.
• Transparency and vulnerability create connection and allow others to see themselves in someone else.
• Embracing all feelings and experiences, both positive and negative, is essential for growth and self-discovery.
• Coming home to oneself and building a strong relationship with oneself is the foundation for healthy relationships and overall well-being.

01:47 Defining Codependency and Its Societal Implications

03:53 Healing Codependency: Relationship with Reality

06:11 Codependency in Relation to Parenting

09:37 Attachment to Outcome and Shaping Others

11:54 Sober Relationship with Reality

13:17 Validation of Reality and Inner Child Work

16:40 Changing Patterns and Intergenerational Healing

20:47 Healing Codependency: Unconditional Love

23:00 Healing Relationship with the Truth

25:46 Non-Codependency: Multiple Opposing Truths

27:56 Healing Codependency: Relationship with Oneself

31:21 Uncovering Authenticity and Trust

31:41 The Power of Choice and the Privilege of Healing

34:34 Codependency and the Need for External Validation

36:42 Saying Goodbye to the Old Self

38:41 The Journey of Healing and Self-Discovery

44:47 The Role of Spirituality in Recovery

49:42 Coming Home to Oneself and Practicing Self-Love

56:35 Healing and Transformation in Relationships

01:00:27 Serving Others Through Healing

Erika and all of her wonderful work can be found on her IG: @erikawrighthcd