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Episode 16 Complete Show Notes: 

Irenaeus is “the glory of God is man fully alive.”  (130-202 AD)

WOUNDING>VOW>LIE>FALSE SELF

ASSAULT WOUNDS ARE OBVIOUS

-Physical, Verbal, sexual wounds from mom, dad, or girlfriends, loss of purity, sex outside of marriage, rape, incest

- Denying a boys ability to become a man

- Name calling

PASSIVE WOUNDS ARE NOT OBVIOUS

-Emotional wounds (Not feeling safe, loved, accepted, touch, blessed)

-Workaholic, Present but not accounted for

-Mom who wouldn’t send the boy out to be w/Dad for initiation

- Dad who doesn’t initiate the boys - Divorce

-Abandonment

The failure of so many fathers [and mothers] and the emasculating culture has left many men without direction and boys without fathers.

Richard Rohr, “Whatever pain that doesn’t get transformed gets transferred.”

A man that never finds the proper use for his masculine strength will undermine his own potential by further wounding himself and others.

-Abusive father, abusive sons

-Passive father, men who lack confidence

-Angry father, angry, abusive, or overly aggressive men.

-Complacent fathers, complacent sons

MEN need to know the answer to the QUESTIONS.

Who am I? Do I have what it takes? (John Eldridge, Wild at Heart) 

NO MATTER...

HOW MUCH MONEY YOU MAKE, HOW “ALPHA” YOU TRY TO BE, HOW MANY DEGREES, HOW MANY WOMEN YOU BED DOWN, HOW MANY KIDS YOU HAVE, HOW MANY BOATS, ATVS, GUNS, ETC., HOW FAR YOU GO IN LIFE, THEY WILL NEVER HEAL YOUR WOUND OR TELL YOU WHO YOU REALLY ARE.

SOME OF THE LIES.

• You’re not loved; you are lonely.
• You’re needs are not being met; take matters into your own hands.
• You have no one to trust; rely on yourself.
• People are the enemy; talk about them.
• People are out to get you; avoid them.
• You’re doing great all by yourself; you don’t need community.
  

STEPS to THROWING OFF THE FALSE SELF

1. DISRUPTION
2. HONESTY
3. ASK GOD
4. TRUST GOD
5. WILLINGNESS
6. WALK IT OUT
7. SERVICE TO GOD & OTHERS

WHAT EVERY MAN NEEDS

IDENTIFICATION, INITIATION, VALIDATION, AFFIRMATION