A mirage is not real, and neither is the narcissist. The 3 stages of narcissistic abuse are idealization, devaluation, and discard. In the first stage, seduction is a powerful hurricane filled with an intensity that binds you to the narcissist in ways that tie you to them forever. They need your fuel, and the only way to be sure you lavish them with gushing delicious fuel is to seduce you and take ownership of their new supply. You may be thinking, "It will be different with me. I will tame him, fix him, save him, change him, etc..." Think again. You will not come out of this alive. The euphoria and bliss at the beginning will not be worth the thousand deaths you will experience at the end. One word of advice. RUN.
